Last weekend my husband ran into a woman he hadn’t seen in at least 20 years. They caught up, talked about old times, and I learned this woman I had just met was the mother of some kids Adam was friends with when he was little.
After only five minute of reminiscing, she asks, “so, when are you having more kids?”
In the words of the great Stephanie Tanner – how rude!
My husband and I dated for seven years before we got married. About two years into dating, we started getting “when are you two getting married?” We were both in college and living with our parents and several people thought it was a good idea we start talking marriage?
Once we got married -- you know the drill – “when are you having kids?”
For some reason this infuriates me. First, I don’t like when people insist I follow some pattern – meet, marriage, house, kids, die. Second, why do people think it’s OK to ask this stuff, these personal questions about these life-changing events? People are people and go places they shouldn’t, that’s why.
What if we were desperately trying to have another child, and it wasn’t working out? What if we were struggling raising our one child? What if Adam wanted more kids and I didn’t or vice versa and it was wrecking our marriage? What if we just want one kid?
Instead of making up some story to make this lady regret asking and think twice when considering do it to someone else, I told her the truth.
“We don’t know.”
“Oh?” she said. “Really?”
Yes, really. STOP TALKING!
How did you/do you deal with these situations? I know it’s happened to you!
Erin Hill is a first-time mom to Lincoln, who was born in January 2010. She's learning as she goes and is experiencing everything a new mom goes through while seeing the humor, irony, and enjoyment in her adventures.
Erin is a full-time technical writer and features freelance writer in her "spare time." She lives in Plum with Lincoln, her husband, Adam, their dog, Roxie, and five (yes, five) cats, Nirvana, Gary Roberts, Elvis, Talbot and Forrest.