Underscheduling?

Written by Heather Starr Fiedler. Posted in PittsburghMom

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I've been thinking a lot lately about what the right amount of scheduling is for kids. It seems like nearly every child that is in the same grade as my kids seems to be involved in so many more activities than we are.  If i lived in a vacuum I'd think that we were just right.  My kids don't ask to do more, and often complain if they are involved in sports that require a lot of time. But then I look around and see how much more other kids are doing and I feel like maybe I'm doing the wrong thing.

I grew up in a very small town where everyone did a little bit of everything. I participated in many activities and sports but never really focused on any one thing. That's just my personality. And I seem to be rubbing off on my kids.

We've tried several organized sports leagues including tball, soccer and karate.  Every time they kids have both gotten bored half way through and practices and games became a chore that they complained about (but I still made them finish the season).  

So, for lack of any "passion" for activities, I've just kept our schedule pretty low key this winter.  The kids are taking a swimming class for an hour on Saturdays.  Matthew also is active in Cub Scouts and both kids have CCD every Sunday.  They also both participate in Math Pentathlon after school one day a week.  Other than that we just come home from school each night and spend time together as a family.

But is that the right thing to do? Matthew is nearly 8.  Should I be more active in having him try other sports and activities now before it's too late to get involved. Many of the kids in his class have already "picked a sport" and practice it several nights a week for a couple of hours.  

How much is enough?  How much is too much?

I guess it's different for every family, but I do worry that I'm doing too little.

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