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Erin and her son Lincoln

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'How are you feeeeeeeeling?' I'm pregnant, not sick.

Written by Erin Hill. Posted in Diaper Duty

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You know you hear a lot (A LOT) of comments and questions that make you cringe when you’re pregnant (and even after you’ve had the kid).  For some reason “How are you feeling?” really gets to me.

I’ve noticed that some people treat pregnancy like it’s an illness. Preggos must rest and “take it easy” even if we’re feeling great. People give up their seats for you and bring you stuff so you don’t have to walk anywhere. That’s all very nice. Thank you very much.

And while I’m very (VERY) lucky my work recognizes some sort of maternity leave, it’s officially its short-term disability benefits that I’ll be using -- DISABILITY. ARG!

Anywho, why can’t people just ask, “How are you?” or “How’s the baby?” or even a “Wassap? You’re looking really crappy today. Are you?”

“How are you feeeeeeling?”

FINE! DARN IT! I haven’t mentioned anything about feeling anything other than fantastic since I had the stomach bug during my eighth week.

Now, if you’ve asked me this, that’s OK. I appreciate you. I like that I have people who are probably asking because they want to know and not just out of the pressure of running into me and my growing belly and having nothing to say. We cool.

Just watch your tone, busta. It’s the concerned faced, tilted head, low voiced “How are you feeling?” that really gets to me.

I’m NOT dying! I’m not in pain! I’m not sick! I’m AWESOME!

How are you feeling?

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Confident Preggo

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I’ve never been more confident about my body than when I’m pregnant. It sounds backwards to me, but there’s something about my body getting bigger changing and having no control over it that has me saying “the hell with it…put your bathing suit on!”

My friend and I recently went to a public pool with our kids a few weeks ago. I didn’t wear shorts or keep my cover up on to hide “things.” You know those things. I’m not too insecure, usually, but I cover up mostly for other people’s sake (those poor people).

However, being pregnant (and having one child already) has me thinking a few things about my body:

  1.  Most women look like me so what’s the big deal?!
  2. Currently, I can’t help my big belly or whatever is going on with my rear that I refuse to investigate. So, what am I going to do about it?
  3. I’m making a baby for crying out loud! A PERSON!  What have these other people I’m comparing myself to done lately?
  4. Whatever I was left with body-wise from my first and whatever I’m dealt this time around doesn’t bother me too much. I got a kid out of the deal! I won!
  5.  I’m working out and eating right. Go me!

How did/do you feel about your body while pregnant? What about after? How about years after?

If you’re not feeling too good about yourself, lay off! You make people! That’s awesome! (And, usually what you don't like can be fixed one way or another!)


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Erin Hill is a first-time mom to Lincoln, who was born in January 2010. She's learning as she goes and is experiencing everything a new mom goes through while seeing the humor, irony, and enjoyment in her adventures.

Erin is a full-time technical writer, a freelancer for Patch, and co-creator and blogger at SlimSavers.com. She lives in Plum with Lincoln, her husband, Adam, their dog, Roxie, and five (yes, five) cats, Nirvana, Gary Roberts, Elvis, Talbot and Forrest. (Anyone want a cat?)

 

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It’s a…

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GIRL!

Bring it on, girl!

I was nervous about having a girl. It’s the unknown (yes, I am a girl), and I LOVE my boy. However, I’m going to get a different kid no matter what so why not throw some bows and glitter in to the mix? I’m very, very lucky.

I wasn’t necessarily dreaming of one of each, but I think it’s going to be pretty cool. Hopefully, each will teach the other about patience, understanding, and respect of the opposite gender…hopefully.

Our family has the opportunity to experience it all: baseball games and dance recitals, water balloon battles and makeovers, fist fights and complete fits of hysteria. Excellent!

I know I am truly, truly blessed to be the mother of two kids now, and I can’t wait to see what this little girl brings to the family. Lincoln is excited about his sister and wants to name her “Liliana,” which is his best friend’s name.

Did you find out what you were having? Do you have one of each (how is it?)?

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Mama likes it hot -- My food, that is

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Last night I ate so many jalapenos I was worried about the repercussions this morning. I wanted them so bad, though. SO, SO bad.

I wanted them when I had them the night before…and the night before.

Apparently, I’m having the same spicy cravings this pregnancy as I had with my son. I can’t get enough!

Unfortunately, I have cravings all the time – pregnant or not – so when people ask if I’m craving anything while pregnant I usually just say food. This week, though, I’ll all about the spicy, burn your throat out HOT STUFF.

This doesn’t mean anything to me except that I must stock up on jalapenos, Sriracha, and banana pepper rings, but some may think cravings give a clue to the sex of the baby. I don’t think anything gives that kind of a clue except a clear ultrasound and the birth of the baby.

Do you think cravings give a hint to the sex of the baby? What were/are your crazy cravings?

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Should Constant Forgiveness be Awarded to Family?

Written by Erin Hill. Posted in Diaper Duty

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I don’t believe in keeping people in your life if they don’t treat you how they should – how you’ve defined how people should treat you. But, what if they’re family?

A long time ago I created a mental list of how I’d treat others. I try to be respectful, understanding, polite, and honest no matter what. When I’m not those things, I apologize profusely and probably don’t repeat my mistake. I don’t think it’s wrong to expect the same back from people in my life. If I don’t get it back, they get a few more chances and probably a lengthy talk with me to understand what happened. If nothing changes I have to distance myself. I think that’s fair – to me and the person.

I worry as I write this that I may not come off as the person I try to be – a nice person (but doesn't a nice person forgive, Erin? argh!). You may think everyone has family issues that they deal. Sure they do, do they have to? Do I have to? You may also think that certain people in your family deserve a lot more forgiveness than others. I thought that, too, for many years. I respect that someone may think these things, but right now, in my current situation, I’m exhausted.

I assure you I’m not talking about something trivial or something that happened once or twice. It’s also not just one thing. I can’t explain myself any more than that. I’ve gotten flack before for having an issue with something someone in my family did, but it was focused on the actual action not the underlying and ongoing problem I was trying to point out. I hope I’m explaining myself better with this post. I'm not crazy. I'm not selfish. I'm not overreacting. I'm thinking this through. I assure you.

So…

Should you take crap you wouldn’t take from others from someone just because they’re family?

I would never put up with half of the stuff some of my family members do and/or say to me and my husband  if they were our friend, and, in my almost 33 years, I’ve given family members more than enough leeway and forgiveness because they were family. I’ve tried every approach I’ve read about and consulted people about, but it is overwhelming at this point, and I was the only person who was trying to change things. I’m not trying to sound stupid here, but I can guarantee you it’s not me anymore!

When there are multiple occurrences of disrespect, harsh words, name calling, crazy acts, negativity, manipulations, etc. (often times in front of my son), how much is someone supposed to take?

It’s my decision now to keep this away from my husband and my son. That does mean Lincoln won’t be seeing some of these people any time soon, but, as his mother, I feel like I’m protecting him from them and the person I become around that. No, I don’t talk bad about these people in front of him nor do I feel like I’m keeping him from anything good or beneficial. They’re simply fading away.

Go ahead and ask “Would you want him to do this to you?” I’ve thought about that a lot. Of course I’d like to think I would treat him kindly for the rest of my life, but the answer is yes. If I was harming him and the life he was trying to have, I would want him to make less the effort I have (yes, less) and then if nothing changed, to do the same.

It’s up to us as people to determine and then set how we want to be treated as human beings. It’s up to us as mothers to decide that for our children. To me, certain actions and mistreatment are unacceptable. I don’t care who you are.


Erin Hill is a first-time mom to Lincoln, who was born in January 2010. She's learning as she goes and is experiencing everything a new mom goes through while seeing the humor, irony, and enjoyment in her adventures.

Erin is a full-time technical writer, a freelancer for Patch, and co-creator and blogger at SlimSavers.com. She lives in Plum with Lincoln, her husband, Adam, their dog, Roxie, and five (yes, five) cats, Nirvana, Gary Roberts, Elvis, Talbot and Forrest. (Anyone want a cat?)

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