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Tiny Moments of Terrible -- Don’t let them determine how you feel about yourself as a parent

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A few months ago Heather wrote about an incident in Washington DC where a woman yelled at Heather’s son for hitting a stick in her direction. Calling Heather and her husband “horrible parents,” she made her judgments about their family in five seconds.

Like any normal person, Heather took it hard at first then described this lady’s interaction with her family as her just seeing that tiny moment where they may not have been at their best. Brilliant!

When you think about it, what happens in a store, doctor’s office, school or elsewhere is just a glimpse of your life to someone else. It’s probably the only time they’ll ever seen you. Also, what you see of someone else is your glimpse into their life. One mistake, one flub or misjudgment can make us all look like horrible parents (maybe even horrible people) when really we’re just doing the best we can and struggling with that at that moment.

Because I don't care much about what people think of me (a wonderful, freeing feeling I discovered back in high school), I try to keep this in mind for when I start judging myself.

When a tiny moment of terrible is growing, it is most important to recognize where things are going wrong and fix it fast. Halting what I’m doing, taking a breath, collecting myself, or having my son do one or all of these things if he's freaking out is amazing at fixing what could be an awful situation. Also, I try to remember that moment for later when I may be in the same situation. When it comes by, I can stop the chaos before it starts. If I screw up – say, by yelling at my sweet, sweet boy – I apologize, explain myself as best I can to a three year old and try not to lose my cool again. I try to make that moment as tiny as possible (and I squish it and throw it on the ground and stomp on it…). Other times when it's not my patience being tested, like when the boy runs out into the parking lot when I, as his mother, should have his darn hand, are lessons for me to learn from and correct.

We don’t always have great days. We all do something that later we wish we hadn’t done. So, why judge yourself (or others) for a small time period where you weren’t the wonderful parent you usually are? My goal as a mother is to not have those small time periods add up and turn into something that I’m forever remembered for.


Erin Hill is a ErinHillfirst-time mom to Lincoln, who was born in January 2010. She's learning as she goes and is experiencing everything a new mom goes through while seeing the humor, irony, and enjoyment in her adventures.

Erin is a full-time technical writer, a freelancer for Patch, and co-creator and blogger at SlimSavers.com. She lives in Plum with Lincoln, her husband, Adam, their dog, Roxie, and five (yes, five) cats, Nirvana, Gary Roberts, Elvis, Talbot and Forrest. (Anyone want a cat?)

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Allergic reactions: How are you prepared?

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My boy got stung by a bee yesterday. I inspected it, held him, and we continued on having a good time at the park.

Then fear set in. What if he’s severely allergic to bees? Here we were at a park in the middle of nowhere as far as I’m concerned, and he could go into shock at any minute, right?

I’m lucky in that I’m only allergic to penicillin, my husband isn’t allergic to anything, and Lincoln (so far) has only been allergic to one type of antibiotic that gave him a rash.  However, that makes me COMPLETELY unprepared for something like this.

He went along his merry way without a tear, but I waited (while consulting WebMD) for him to pass out way past the time limit it would have happened if he really was severely allergic.

It made me wonder:

How did you find out about your kids’ allergies that dealt up more than a rash? How did you deal with it the first time the reaction happened? Do you carry something for possible severe allergic reactions just in case?

It would be different if we were at home. There’s a fire station less than a minute down the road that comforts me. But, I really had no idea what I was going to do if he needed immediate medical attention at this park, and, sadly, I never even thought about it until yesterday.

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'How are you feeeeeeeeling?' I'm pregnant, not sick.

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You know you hear a lot (A LOT) of comments and questions that make you cringe when you’re pregnant (and even after you’ve had the kid).  For some reason “How are you feeling?” really gets to me.

I’ve noticed that some people treat pregnancy like it’s an illness. Preggos must rest and “take it easy” even if we’re feeling great. People give up their seats for you and bring you stuff so you don’t have to walk anywhere. That’s all very nice. Thank you very much.

And while I’m very (VERY) lucky my work recognizes some sort of maternity leave, it’s officially its short-term disability benefits that I’ll be using -- DISABILITY. ARG!

Anywho, why can’t people just ask, “How are you?” or “How’s the baby?” or even a “Wassap? You’re looking really crappy today. Are you?”

“How are you feeeeeeling?”

FINE! DARN IT! I haven’t mentioned anything about feeling anything other than fantastic since I had the stomach bug during my eighth week.

Now, if you’ve asked me this, that’s OK. I appreciate you. I like that I have people who are probably asking because they want to know and not just out of the pressure of running into me and my growing belly and having nothing to say. We cool.

Just watch your tone, busta. It’s the concerned faced, tilted head, low voiced “How are you feeling?” that really gets to me.

I’m NOT dying! I’m not in pain! I’m not sick! I’m AWESOME!

How are you feeling?

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Confident Preggo

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I’ve never been more confident about my body than when I’m pregnant. It sounds backwards to me, but there’s something about my body getting bigger changing and having no control over it that has me saying “the hell with it…put your bathing suit on!”

My friend and I recently went to a public pool with our kids a few weeks ago. I didn’t wear shorts or keep my cover up on to hide “things.” You know those things. I’m not too insecure, usually, but I cover up mostly for other people’s sake (those poor people).

However, being pregnant (and having one child already) has me thinking a few things about my body:

  1.  Most women look like me so what’s the big deal?!
  2. Currently, I can’t help my big belly or whatever is going on with my rear that I refuse to investigate. So, what am I going to do about it?
  3. I’m making a baby for crying out loud! A PERSON!  What have these other people I’m comparing myself to done lately?
  4. Whatever I was left with body-wise from my first and whatever I’m dealt this time around doesn’t bother me too much. I got a kid out of the deal! I won!
  5.  I’m working out and eating right. Go me!

How did/do you feel about your body while pregnant? What about after? How about years after?

If you’re not feeling too good about yourself, lay off! You make people! That’s awesome! (And, usually what you don't like can be fixed one way or another!)


ErinHill

Erin Hill is a first-time mom to Lincoln, who was born in January 2010. She's learning as she goes and is experiencing everything a new mom goes through while seeing the humor, irony, and enjoyment in her adventures.

Erin is a full-time technical writer, a freelancer for Patch, and co-creator and blogger at SlimSavers.com. She lives in Plum with Lincoln, her husband, Adam, their dog, Roxie, and five (yes, five) cats, Nirvana, Gary Roberts, Elvis, Talbot and Forrest. (Anyone want a cat?)

 

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It’s a…

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GIRL!

Bring it on, girl!

I was nervous about having a girl. It’s the unknown (yes, I am a girl), and I LOVE my boy. However, I’m going to get a different kid no matter what so why not throw some bows and glitter in to the mix? I’m very, very lucky.

I wasn’t necessarily dreaming of one of each, but I think it’s going to be pretty cool. Hopefully, each will teach the other about patience, understanding, and respect of the opposite gender…hopefully.

Our family has the opportunity to experience it all: baseball games and dance recitals, water balloon battles and makeovers, fist fights and complete fits of hysteria. Excellent!

I know I am truly, truly blessed to be the mother of two kids now, and I can’t wait to see what this little girl brings to the family. Lincoln is excited about his sister and wants to name her “Liliana,” which is his best friend’s name.

Did you find out what you were having? Do you have one of each (how is it?)?

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