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Erin and her son Lincoln

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It’s a…

Written by Erin Hill. Posted in Diaper Duty

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GIRL!

Bring it on, girl!

I was nervous about having a girl. It’s the unknown (yes, I am a girl), and I LOVE my boy. However, I’m going to get a different kid no matter what so why not throw some bows and glitter in to the mix? I’m very, very lucky.

I wasn’t necessarily dreaming of one of each, but I think it’s going to be pretty cool. Hopefully, each will teach the other about patience, understanding, and respect of the opposite gender…hopefully.

Our family has the opportunity to experience it all: baseball games and dance recitals, water balloon battles and makeovers, fist fights and complete fits of hysteria. Excellent!

I know I am truly, truly blessed to be the mother of two kids now, and I can’t wait to see what this little girl brings to the family. Lincoln is excited about his sister and wants to name her “Liliana,” which is his best friend’s name.

Did you find out what you were having? Do you have one of each (how is it?)?

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Mama likes it hot -- My food, that is

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Last night I ate so many jalapenos I was worried about the repercussions this morning. I wanted them so bad, though. SO, SO bad.

I wanted them when I had them the night before…and the night before.

Apparently, I’m having the same spicy cravings this pregnancy as I had with my son. I can’t get enough!

Unfortunately, I have cravings all the time – pregnant or not – so when people ask if I’m craving anything while pregnant I usually just say food. This week, though, I’ll all about the spicy, burn your throat out HOT STUFF.

This doesn’t mean anything to me except that I must stock up on jalapenos, Sriracha, and banana pepper rings, but some may think cravings give a clue to the sex of the baby. I don’t think anything gives that kind of a clue except a clear ultrasound and the birth of the baby.

Do you think cravings give a hint to the sex of the baby? What were/are your crazy cravings?

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Should Constant Forgiveness be Awarded to Family?

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I don’t believe in keeping people in your life if they don’t treat you how they should – how you’ve defined how people should treat you. But, what if they’re family?

A long time ago I created a mental list of how I’d treat others. I try to be respectful, understanding, polite, and honest no matter what. When I’m not those things, I apologize profusely and probably don’t repeat my mistake. I don’t think it’s wrong to expect the same back from people in my life. If I don’t get it back, they get a few more chances and probably a lengthy talk with me to understand what happened. If nothing changes I have to distance myself. I think that’s fair – to me and the person.

I worry as I write this that I may not come off as the person I try to be – a nice person (but doesn't a nice person forgive, Erin? argh!). You may think everyone has family issues that they deal. Sure they do, do they have to? Do I have to? You may also think that certain people in your family deserve a lot more forgiveness than others. I thought that, too, for many years. I respect that someone may think these things, but right now, in my current situation, I’m exhausted.

I assure you I’m not talking about something trivial or something that happened once or twice. It’s also not just one thing. I can’t explain myself any more than that. I’ve gotten flack before for having an issue with something someone in my family did, but it was focused on the actual action not the underlying and ongoing problem I was trying to point out. I hope I’m explaining myself better with this post. I'm not crazy. I'm not selfish. I'm not overreacting. I'm thinking this through. I assure you.

So…

Should you take crap you wouldn’t take from others from someone just because they’re family?

I would never put up with half of the stuff some of my family members do and/or say to me and my husband  if they were our friend, and, in my almost 33 years, I’ve given family members more than enough leeway and forgiveness because they were family. I’ve tried every approach I’ve read about and consulted people about, but it is overwhelming at this point, and I was the only person who was trying to change things. I’m not trying to sound stupid here, but I can guarantee you it’s not me anymore!

When there are multiple occurrences of disrespect, harsh words, name calling, crazy acts, negativity, manipulations, etc. (often times in front of my son), how much is someone supposed to take?

It’s my decision now to keep this away from my husband and my son. That does mean Lincoln won’t be seeing some of these people any time soon, but, as his mother, I feel like I’m protecting him from them and the person I become around that. No, I don’t talk bad about these people in front of him nor do I feel like I’m keeping him from anything good or beneficial. They’re simply fading away.

Go ahead and ask “Would you want him to do this to you?” I’ve thought about that a lot. Of course I’d like to think I would treat him kindly for the rest of my life, but the answer is yes. If I was harming him and the life he was trying to have, I would want him to make less the effort I have (yes, less) and then if nothing changed, to do the same.

It’s up to us as people to determine and then set how we want to be treated as human beings. It’s up to us as mothers to decide that for our children. To me, certain actions and mistreatment are unacceptable. I don’t care who you are.


Erin Hill is a first-time mom to Lincoln, who was born in January 2010. She's learning as she goes and is experiencing everything a new mom goes through while seeing the humor, irony, and enjoyment in her adventures.

Erin is a full-time technical writer, a freelancer for Patch, and co-creator and blogger at SlimSavers.com. She lives in Plum with Lincoln, her husband, Adam, their dog, Roxie, and five (yes, five) cats, Nirvana, Gary Roberts, Elvis, Talbot and Forrest. (Anyone want a cat?)

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Expecting Number Two!

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I’m pregnant (!), and here are a few things I’m wondering about right now (wondering about, not complaining about):

  1. Why do I have a big belly already? I’m only 13 ½ weeks and already full on into my maternity clothes. While I’m loving not having to button my pants and having room to grow after my meals, I’m confused. I don’t remember having this big of a belly until month five or six. When the doctor listened for the heartbeat she had to put the Doppler allllll the way down so I know there’s no baby up top --just my belly. The doctor said my body’s chemistry “may be reacting already to the pregnancy.” Whatever that means. I’ve also had people tell me that since this is my second, my abs (that I didn’t know I once had) are stretched and easier to pry open and make room for the baby. I don’t know. Baby “Dos” is only the size of a shrimp, according to BabyCenter.com. Maybe I’ve got another 10 ½-pounder, 24-incher on the way!
  2. Why aren’t I as excited as I was with Lincoln? I feel bad saying that, but I just don’t have that “Oh my God!” feeling yet. I’m happy about it; Not hating this decision; Not regretting anything. I just remember being more excited at this point before. I think this may be because I’m busy being excited for the things Lincoln does. He’s getting so big!
  3. Why do I want a boy so bad? Like, bad. (And, again, I feel awful for saying that.) I wouldn’t return a girl; of course, I’d love her to death! But, I really want a boy. I like my boy. He’s a good one. It’s wrong of me to think another boy would be the exact same person, but I still think it would be pretty awesome to have two little blond boys running around the house.
  4. Why is everything moving so slowly!? Really, only 13 weeks? I feel like I’ve been pregnant forever already. Maybe it’s because I found out much early this time? Maybe I am excited and just don’t know it?
  5. Why do I feel like this is my last one? I’ve always wanted two or three kids, but I think I’m good with two. Everything is great so far with this pregnancy and my first was a dream. There’s nothing that has me sobbing “this is the last time I do this,” but I just think this is it. I’ll have this one, we’ll be complete.
  6. Why do I feel so ready? I AM READY for this one! Bring it on, Baby Dos! I know nothing will be the same as with Lincoln and our lives will be changed and flipped upside down (again), but BRING IT. I'm ready for diapers, late-nights, breastfeeding, baby laughs, crying, cooing, everything!

Just a few things I’m wondering right now--again, not complaining. I know I’m lucky. I know I’m blessed. I am grateful. I’m just thinking out loud here.

Any other moms expecting their second or remember what they felt about having #2?


Erin Hill is a ErinHillfirst-time mom to Lincoln, who was born in January 2010. She's learning as she goes and is experiencing everything a new mom goes through while seeing the humor, irony, and enjoyment in her adventures.

Erin is a full-time technical writer, a freelancer for Patch, and co-creator and blogger at SlimSavers.com. She lives in Plum with Lincoln, her husband, Adam, their dog, Roxie, and five (yes, five) cats, Nirvana, Gary Roberts, Elvis, Talbot and Forrest. (Anyone want a cat?)

 

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Running man

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My son runs out into parking lots now. Soooo, that’s a lot of fun.

Ninety nine percent of the time, I’ve got his hand before we get close to an exit. The other one percent of the time, I KNOW he’s not running out the door into traffic…or so I thought.

When I pick him up at school, he runs down the hallway giggling (how could I not let him do that!?), stops at the door, and waits. Then, we walk out holding hands, and HE makes me stop to check for cars. I think that’s the only time I let him run ahead of me when there’s a possibility he could go out the door.

The other day, we were with friends, including his “best girl” Lily, and he and Lily BOLTED out the door of a restaurant into the parking lot. I was held back by some other people also leaving and couldn’t get to him until I pretty much knocked my friend down to get past him to chase my boy in the parking lot.

He got an earful and a timeout on the sidewalk. I said a prayer of thanks.

The next day, he tried to run out of Target ahead of my husband.

Yes, we hold his hand walking across the parking lot and the street and what-not, but this running ahead business is bananas! Both times my husband and I were unable to get to him right away. I'm not naive to think that he knows the all dangers or remembers what we tell him about cars and parking lots, but this just came out of no where -- as everything usually does with these kids.

Since these incidents, I’ve got hold of him from the time we walk in some place to the time I buckle him in the car to leave no matter where we’re at.

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